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How Do I Forgive Someone Who Hurt Me Deeply?

Forgiveness is a deliberate choice to release the desire for revenge and entrust justice to God, made possible by remembering how much we ourselves have been forgiven, even though it may take time and does not require ignoring real harm.

Published 2026-09-13 · Updated 2026-09-27

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Biblical explanation

Jesus taught His disciples to forgive repeatedly, even “seventy times seven” (), and told the parable of the unmerciful servant to illustrate that those who have received great forgiveness from God are called to extend it to others (). Forgiveness does not mean pretending an offense did not happen or automatically restoring trust without any change, and Scripture allows for wise boundaries even while releasing bitterness (). Paul instructs believers to be “kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you” (). When wounds are especially deep, working through the process with a trusted pastor or counselor alongside prayer can provide valuable support as forgiveness unfolds over time.

In brief

Jesus taught His disciples to forgive repeatedly, even “seventy times seven” (), and told the parable of the unmerciful servant to illustrate that those who have received great forgiveness from God are called to extend it to others ().

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